You’ve been talking about having your elderly mother move in with you. You’ve seen her struggling to take care of herself. You’ve been called over to her house more than a few times and you’ve grown concerned for her safety. You assume everything is going to be better if she just moves in with you and your family.
What kind of care will she still require?
“Well, if she’s moving in with me,” you might be thinking, “she won’t need any other help.” Really? That’s what a lot of people assume, but the reality is if your mother needs support and assistance in her house right now, she’s going to need support and assistance anywhere else.
It doesn’t really matter if it’s your house or some facility. If she’s relying on you or somebody else for general care and support throughout the day, that’s not going to change.
In fact, in some situations her needs could increase.
Consider the fact she’s been living in the same place for a number of years. Perhaps it’s 5, 10, or 40. However long she’s been in that apartment or house, she’s gotten used to the layout. She knows where the light switches are. She probably even knows how many steps it is from her bedroom door to the kitchen sink.
If she’s in her 70s, 80s, or 90s when she makes this move, she’s going to be in a completely unfamiliar area even if she’s visited you and your family numerous times through the years, she doesn’t have the same knowledge about your house as you do.
You might wake up in the middle of the night during one of those first days with you and cry out for help. She might be frightened, unsettled, or confused. She may slip out of bed, waiting for her eyes to adjust to the dark, and forget she needs to go to the hall to get to the bathroom.
Your mother might want to help prepare meals, but where do you keep everything? You might have pots and pans, dishes, cups, and other items stored in upper cabinets. Now you have to make an adjustment so she doesn’t feel compelled to grab the stepladder and reach them.
As you can see, there might be things you haven’t considered when suggesting your mother move in with you and your family. Either way (whether she stays where she is or moves), a home care aide can still be one of the most valuable assets that helps you and her maximize quality of life.
IF YOU OR AN AGING LOVED ONE ARE CONSIDERING HOME CARE OPTIONS IN LAS VEGAS, NV, PLEASE CONTACT THE CARING STAFF AT GOLDEN HEART SENIOR CARE OF SUMMERLIN. 702-800-4616.
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